Hello. everyone.
Today I want to write about Japanese romance and lovers, but before that I have a question for you.
"What is dating?"
※A trial period when you are not a lover.
I remembered recently when I was told by an American friend a few years ago. I'm sure, "I'm not a lover, but a person who is more special than a friend", but is it right?
I will write this article focusing on dating.
There is no "dating" in Japan!
There is no culture of "dating" in Japan.
When I looked up the dating, it felt like a "trial period as a lover". Depending on the country, it seems that any number of people can date at the same time. I can't think of it in Japan. Japanese beauty and good-looking guys are an enviable culture. If you do that in Japan, you'll be called a "playboy"
In Japan, it's not dating, but after getting to know each other, we get to know each other. If you feel like it, you can express your feelings, if it's OK, you can be a lover, and if No, you can't be a lover. That is common. It's the so-called "confession of love." By the way, more men make "confessions of love". Recently, I've heard that women have confessed to me.
By the way, did everyone reading it think like this?
"Wait a minute. Isn't that dating period a period of friendship?"
That's not the case. I have never lived outside of Japan. I've never experienced dating, so I'll write the difference from dating from the information I got on the internet.
Do Japanese people kiss before they become lovers?
It is widely known that Japan does not have a culture of greeting and kissing, but that is true. In general, the only people you can kiss are your family and your lover. Even close friends don't even kiss their cheeks. It may be different if you are drunk. Even if I become a lover, I rarely kiss in public.
In dating, it seems that there are many people who kiss, though they are different. And it seems that some people are OK with sex, but I think this is not so much in Japan.
In Japan, the number of people who become lovers from sex has increased compared to the past, but not so many. Well, maybe because many people don't say that.
I often hear that if you go to bed with someone who isn't your lover, you'll be one night or a sex friend. Instead of becoming a lover.
Anyway, in Japan, there are many people who do not want to kiss or have sex with anyone other than their lover. Even if you get along well.
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Without a "confession of love," you wouldn't be a lover forever.
In Japan, if you want to be a lover, you have to express your feelings clearly in words or letters. In other words, even if you're together for a long time as a friend, you go out many times together, or you eat dinner together every week for a year, you're not a lover unless you express your feelings and get an OK reply. ..
"Dating" somehow decided the period and there was no "confession of love", and they became lovers without knowing it.
I've heard that, but this is not possible in Japan.
For example, suppose she has a woman I like, and she has gone out with that person five times and had dinner with her three times. But she hasn't confessed her love. If I say the woman in front of her friends, she says, "She is my lover," her friends and the woman think, "What are you talking about?" Probably.
In particular, the woman may even break the relationship. If you don't confess, you won't be out of your friends. The confession of love is so important.
There are many opinions that Japanese people like to have a clear relationship with their lover. Therefore, the culture of dating may not spread.
What if a Japanese spends time with a lover and thinks "it's different"?
"What if you become a lover without dating and think it's different?"
I have been asked by a friend, but I say the same answer as that time.
I will break up normally. It's a catastrophe. There are many people who become a couple and end up in a catastrophe within one to three months. It's not unusual for a story to be catastrophic within half a year. It's a common story.
As far as I know
・ My personality did not match.
・ I was not good at kissing.
・ I was not satisfied with sex.
I know some people who broke up in a short period of time because of that. Should I have dating when I hear that?
Some people can return to friendships after parting, but many don't care at all.
I'm completely out of touch with the ex-girlfriends. To be honest, I don't even know the contact information anymore. Many of my Japanese friends are still on good terms even after parting. Some ex-couples were attending each other's wedding.
How was everyone?
I'm sorry for the confusing article.
I've never experienced dating, so I didn't know what I wanted to write.
If you read this, please write your impressions.
I would like to hear what the actual dating is like.
I'm waiting for your comment.
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